The 100 Marriage: Arranged is for brothers and sisters who want to be married and want the people who know them best involved in getting there. Below is the process, start to finish.
Step 1Family-Facilitated Deep Dive
If your responses indicate potential compatibility with another member of the arranged marriage pool, you will receive a message titled: “Action Required: [Your Name] — You Have a Potential Spouse.”
Before any introductions are made between potential spouses, we begin with your designated family or trusted representative — not you.
You’ll assign one or two individuals from your community (preferably a parent, guardian, mentor, or elder) to join a facilitated deep dive conversation on your behalf. This session explores shared values, life vision, and alignment based on both individuals’ assessment results. Each family representative will have the opportunity to ask questions, gain clarity, and offer counsel. This ensures communal affirmation before the two individuals meet.
Step 2Introduction of Potential Spouses
If both families or representatives give their blessing to proceed, the two potential spouses will be invited to a facilitated virtual introduction.
This is your opportunity to meet, ask intentional questions, and prayerfully explore alignment — supported by a counselor and a guided framework.
Step 3Alignment Decision
After your introductions, you’ll each have a week to privately reflect and decide whether to proceed.
- If you both agree, we’ll move to the next step.
- If not, you may choose to re-enter the pool for future consideration.
Step 4Final Conversation
If both potential spouses choose to move forward, a final meeting is scheduled, in person:
- You’ll invite up to two significant figures (for example a parent, elder or sibling) to join the session.
- Each figure may ask one question of your potential spouse, and you may ask one question of each figure.
This session aims to confirm relational, spiritual, and familial alignment as you discern your next step.
Step 5Marriage Commitment
We reconfirm marriage commitment the day after the meeting, and if aligned we begin:
- Our premarital counseling process under our direction.
- A private ceremony of blessing for the marriage union.
- Scheduling the date for legal marriage.
- Enrolling you in monthly post-commitment counseling sessions for one year to strengthen your foundation.
A note on potential spouses
We don’t promise a spouse. We promise intentionality.
If you’re invited to consider someone, it’s because your assessments revealed high alignment in the foundational areas that matter — faith, family, finances, expectations, and purpose.
How to begin
Everything starts with the assessment. Complete The 100 Marriage Assessment, and if your responses indicate alignment with another member of the pool, you’ll hear from us.
The foundation underneath all of it is the book: The 100 Marriage: Declarations & Decisions You Need to Make Before Getting Married.
With gratitude, respect and love,
Lawrence